3 years is a long time, I  might have 6 gfs by then if i continue from my current trend lol  I found that the most imp thing in life is to get in relationship w/ smbdy who likes u rather then who u like. My exp tends to think that way dude. I might be wrong. 

What is this about ? 

What is this topic about?

quags..no way

btw quags..i saw original thread before u edited ;) dont worry..ur secret safe :D hehe

Giggidy Giggidy

I think in arrange marriage you don't get to know each other; but that's just me........

I think the ideal would be someone who your parents know and you like her as well.................is there someone like that in anybodies mind:)

I do:)

Peace!

You deleted. You are not a true writer. A true writer always welcomes criticism. Thats how you learn in life. I will never response on your thread and your opinion won't be that much valuable to others in future. YO BUDHO KO SARAB TIMLAI..RATI KO 12 BAJE....

Gay budo, risaunu bhayena.

My cousin saw this thread and wanted to know what I was inquiring about.

Aba halla nagaraun na hai. Pheri mero ghar ma pole khulyo bhane barbad huncha.

Ahead of the rest, good point. Of course that would be fantastic. Good luck. Kripaya pole nakholaun hola aba.

hahahah quags...ka cuz lai afnu sajha username dekhai dekhai type gareko ta :D

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Now that you guys have already spilled the beans ( my cous knows abt it now ), I suppose its fair to disclose my plans. The problem on my case is, I don't live in a place with Nepali girls living around me. Further, I've never seriously dated any Nepali girl. American chicks that I dated turned out to be quality and unreliable, short term attraction. I knew it so its fair to say I didn't give it all either. Still, I suppose Nepali girls could be compared to the "cheaper" yet quality, long term Japanese Cars! Not as outspoken as the Americans, yet extremely "reliable" and caring. ( Again, I might be wrong because I've never seriously dated a Nepali girl ).

Now looking into the future, things could change. Of course, I could meet a girl that I might fall in love with. Now that's unpredictable. What I'm thinking of is including a Nepali girl in my life, should I fail to stumble upon one. That leaves me to only one room, look for one back home. All my classmates are getting married so there's no point looking at them. Of course, I'm not at all excited or looking forward to an arranged marriage. Love marriage with parents' consent is the best ideal and best way to go. But again, I just wonder what'd happen if I didn't stumble upon Nepali girls!

On second thoughts, this is turning out to be a serious matrimonial discussion.

Thanks for your suggestions and feedbacks "senior" brothers!

Now, if someone who "fell" into arranged marriage could enlighten about his or her experience so far.......

all you pepul talking about oranged marrich? i think orange marrich sucks dankey balls, getting married to someone you don't really know that is kinda weird no?

I think arranged marriage is just like diving in bermuda triangle, its hard to get to the bottom but once you got to the bottom you will end up collecting pile of treasures.

did not know about the pile of treasure under bermuda triangle water..thought there were aliens living there

To be a successful marriage  you should have compatibility & mutual understanding, compromise and willing to sacrifice and willing to give up your egos

You did a wonderful job of stating the obvious syanjali...bravo! :p

here is my final thought, "arrange marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence, love marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."

Anthony since you have six gf in 3 years you don't deserve a girl who loves you.

Syanjali batha hunchan vhanthiya yehi vhayara riecha.......(no hard feelings hai...just trying some humor).......

So far.......among all out here you got the short and to the point .......Arrange or Love ,,,,,it's all personal choice, and as a grwon-up individual you have all your rights and freedom  to exercise it, and don't forget that others have the same. I have seen the worst cases of both and the best cases too, and that is also within my family circle. No matter how many years you have spend together with someone or even lived together in the process of knowing him/her; there is no absolute certanity that you know the person very well or know everything about him/her. I think for me marriage is not about knowing likes or dislikes of ur immedaite others. It is not about what he/she loves or what are his/her good and bad characters. You know, person at the age of 20 is not same as the person in his 25 or say 30 and so on. Time changes and with it ppl changes slowely too. and with it comes changes in their likes/ dsilikes, characters, behaviours , and so on..... these changes are dramatic when u marry and then you started having kids and then you start thinking about ur future and so many things. If you are expecting the person to be same over a long period of time , then my dear friend, you are just asking for the trouble. Something is wrong with you. With marriage you are saying or even say your are bounded by a bond ( or even a aggeement ; a agreement doens't ahve to be written or even wrttien troughly) that you are ready for all those changes in the long run. I respect you and in retrun u respect me. If any problems, we will fix together, and if we cannot we will handle in the best possible way by listening to each other in a adult way. like my frd, syanjali said it is a compromise and sacrifice. it is a understanding, mutual respect........and well there are other thinsg that comes into action like compatibilty.......and so on

For me, I never like the idea of  living together in a relationship and just give a name to that relationship (boyfrd or girlfrd) so that society, family and frds couldn't point a finger at you. I will be more satiesfied if someone tells me that he/she is trying to see the compatibilty with immediate others or even may be trying to find out if he/she can spend the entire life with that person. But again, he/she only knows about his other half past and present. the only thing we can do is predict about the things that will change in the future (don't worry future will always change), based on our past and present. And there is no way of telling how the changes will come. So the best thing would be - be ready for changes and adopt those.

So guys do whatever you think is best for you and ppl around you (remember marriage is not only abut two ppl, there are so many involved in it.........i know i know...'jab ho do razi, kay karayga pazi'). I will do what I always wished for and in my best interest. Just one thing before I end, "Marriage - love or arrange- is the process of adopting a changes over a entrire life. Now, With what ease or difficulty you adopt those changes is totally one you and ur other half.